Understand people, again

Lỗ hổng ngày càng hiện ra rõ nét.
1.Còn 1 chút xíu impulsive, hôm nay chợt phát hiện ra.
2.Đã bắt đầu xây dựng self-alert nhưng còn rất amateur. Chỉ alert được bức tranh trước mắt mà chưa nhìn ra được bức tranh lớn hơn, khiến cho nói chuyện chưa thật trúng chủ đề.
3.Chưa consciously đặt chân vào giày người đối diện. Trước khi bắt đầu nói chuyện mình chưa có thói quen thực hiện việc này đầu tiên. Vì vậy nói chuyện có thể trôi chảy, thậm chí vẫn vui hài hước nhưng không trúng. Điểm này liên quan đến điểm trên.
4.Qua một thời gian dần trật đi mục tiêu quan trọng nhất của việc đọc sách rồi, đó là : Liao jie bie ren. Hiểu con người. Đọc cho xong mà chả có tác dụng gì mấy rồi.
4. Có điều rõ ràng là practice có tác dụng cực tốt. Mỗi hôm có một cơ hội practice và self-criticism như vầy thì sẽ có tiến bộ .

Binh tinh~ ma` hanh dong

Minh con thua xa Zhong Yue Min. Yue Min tu ton cao that, khong quy luy nguoi khac that, nhung hanh dong deu co ly tri, ngon ngu cu chi deu co ly tri dieu khien, ke ca khi to ra kinh trong, than mat hay khinh bi ai do. Hanh dong phai do ly tri dieu khien, cho nhu minh hien tai toan` tu phat', chang khac gi mot ke khong co ly try. Dung chi hanh dong theo tinh cam nua.

Exciting

Minh van~ chua duoc nhu Goku, moi lan gap thu thach kho khan la lai hung phan len boi phan :)

Mission statement

I need one.
For some, it may be: To be rich. To be a scientist. To be a pianist.
What is my mission statement? So that I can focus my energy?
I will answer soon.

The deepest secret of life

This is the most profound secret of life: Every thought in your mind is self-fulfilling!

Give-up feeling and Determination for Discipline

Quite some time now that I have this feeling again. Rather "give up" or tired or really just dont want to do it anymore. Still a matter of Discipline. I must not be wavered or
persuaded in this matter. Must be iron-like. This seems to be the final step for me to break the "Discipline" as a constraint factor for ever. Because this is a failure I will hardly see anymore!

Difficulties-Low results

What do you do in the midst of difficulties and bad results and low morale?

Perfect, impossible or best plausible?

-Nothing is beyond my reach, if I really want to do. This is learned, not self-assurance.
-If a task is found stupid/meaningless: some others indeed see things differently. I usually interpret the requirement/guideline too straight, too logic, too conventional, too inflexible or anything else....that discourage myself to work. My interpretation and their intention mismatch. In some cases, I am committing to a perfect but impossible intention while ignoring the best plausible solution.
-I think about the future direction. The clearer it gets, the more real the inspiration gets. The success in future will depend on two legs: people skills and expertise. These two are intertwined.

Cut waste in a deep sense

I think about the time I spent before I left for Singapore. About 3 months in 2005. What did I do then? I dont remember now. I watched some movies. I am not sure if there was something else. Seemed like a large proportion of my time has been spent wastefully and unproductively. Worse, it seems like I am doing many stuffs just to spend time, spend days.
But this seems beyond the matter of discipline. Seems inherent in life. Is that so?
Look from 2 points:
-Life is at present tense. We spend the present moment mostly for its own sake. As we look back, the moment we spent in the past of course most likely appears as irrelevant. And then we feel it wasted.
-Many small acts are indeed waste. They contribute nothing to long-term program and not sure if be any good for the moment it is spent. Very often those moments will be omitted in the documentary of our own self. Makes no meaning.

冷静

The first time I experience what is so-called "冷静" and I suddenly understand what is the true power of 中跃民。Amazing power.

Deal with "being told to do sth" - Just "hit the wall"?

The frustrated feeling of doing assignments is not over. I think in the time ahead I will still be subject to "assignments" from some stupid human beings and I must find a best response.
1. Estimate the constraints of the environments
2. What may be in the head of those who assigns
3. What are my constraints?
4. Picture an objective and finish it!
Surely, can ask questions to clarify. Always remember what is important. Sadly there will be some one who tells me what to do!

Life is Games-How do you want to play?

1. I agree there can be many ways to live. To be pure, To live with nature, to be near Great Dao, to be Free is no doubt a great way. But there the other way. You accept the Games of Life. More than that, You embrace the game. It is the exciting challenge. I believe there will be a way so that I can maintain to be pure, free, near Great Dao even when I am in the Game. I choose the 2nd way because it is exciting and fun. I like challenge.
2.As I embark on this journey and participate in the game, beside my SELF, there are a few things that always stay with you and are the only things I have to take care of. I call it the fundamental strength. Everything I do now is aimed at expanding it. An A+ is not important, a small but challenge my thinking project is.
3. The single most basic element is not Determination. It is Discipline.

Độc thoại

Father tách ngươi làm 2, cho ngươi được nói chuyện với chính mình.
1.Đối diện với người đó, cảm giác của ngươi là gì? Ngươi nên trả lời được câu hỏi này, vì ngươi là người hiểu hắn nhất.
2. Câu hỏi: gặp gió thổi ngược, ngươi cảm nghĩ gì?
-Gặp phải thất bại, cảm xúc của ngươi là gì?
-Có nguy cơ thất bại, cảm xúc của ngươi là gì?
-Gặp 1 người cao hơn ngươi, đẹp trai hơn ngươi, cảm xúc của ngươi là gì? Gặp 1 người thông minh hơn ngươi? Gặp một người nhiều thành tích hơn ngươi?
-Gặp gái đẹp, cảm xúc của ngươi là gì?
-Một người nói không thích ngươi, ngươi cảm thấy gì?
-Một người qua hành động, tỏ ra không thích ngươi, ngươi cảm thấy gì?
-Một người không tôn trọng ngươi, ngươi cảm thấy gì?
3. Câu hỏi: con đường đi của ngươi?
-Mục đích cao nhất?
4. Câu hỏi: giá trị của ngươi?
Mắt sáng + mặt dễ nhìn + Lễ + Văn hóa + Reasoning intelligence + never give up + big dream + continuous improvement + free at heart - lùn - giọng nói không oai - thiếu mềm dẻo trong quan hệ người-người - tự ti khi gặp người hơn mình - lo lắng khi gặp việc mà chưa biết cách giải quyết -còn không?????
5. Con người lý tưởng?
Trái tim thuần khiết, một lòng vì lý tưởng, không tư lợi
+Khiêm, nằm ngủ cũng mộng tưởng tới Đạo, cốt làm được việc
+Tự cải thiện không ngừng, hưng phấn khi gặp thử thách
+Trái tim tự do dù xung quanh là gò bó
+Lòng tự tôn tuyệt đối, than vãn là xa lạ. Gặp người mạnh hơn thì càng hưng phấn vì cuối cùng chắc chắn sẽ bị mình vượt qua
+Lạc quan trở thành máu
+Gan lớn trùm trời, không việc gì có thể khiến lo lắng vì hiểu rõ chắc chắn sẽ có giải pháp
+Mắt quan sát sắc như dao
+Không nói thừa
+Quyết đoán, dù thiên hạ đi ngược
+Chấp nhận khuyết điểm: thấp lùn, không cầu hoàn mỹ trong mọi cảnh huống, miễn sao đạt được mục tiêu. Thậm chí mục tiêu có thể không tới, giữ đúng chính đạo là ok.
Tự tin-tự tôn-Lạc quan tuyệt đối. Thiên hạ giỏi đến đâu, nếu cần vượt qua mình cũng sẽ vượt qua được. Sự việc phức tạp thế nào cũng sẽ giải quyết được.
Hình ảnh này là không hoàn mỹ. Ta không có ý làm hoàn mỹ. Có điều đối với người này khiếm khuyết chỉ có ý nghĩa thúc đẩy phát triển.

Rất ghét kiểu suy nghĩ cứ khom khom chú ý từng tiểu tiết làm đẹp ý người khác, dò ngóng thái độ của người khác. Đặc biệt cứ chăm chăm bợ đỡ làm đẹp mắt đám đàn bà con gái thì quả là không còn ý tưởng nói chuyện nữa rồi.!!!

Handicap - Will power

People with handicaps sometimes develop powerful personality and amazing skill/strength. Those are who have iron-like will power and absolute self-esteem.

My height can be labeled as my handicap. So how 'bout me?

Social intelligence

It is the ability to know what to do in a social-interpersonal situation.
(It is not the ability to analyse social phenomenons such as crime, divorce...)
So each social situation is a problem that requires solution. I can say that my logics/reasoning intelligence is strong-I am completely confident about that. But the current social intelligence is not so good-just above average. It is not enough to achieve my goal. Now let me be straight: I want to get excellent grade on this intelligence: as strong as logics/reasoning intelligence, say top 4% of population.
The good news is this intelligence can be cultivated( logics intelligence is not). Obvious sources to learn are: books, novels, movies. The difficulties may like in practice. 2 places to practice: practice in my mind and in reality.
We are always conscious of a logics/reasoning problem when we encounter one so we mobilize our intelligence to solve it. It may not be so obvious for social problem. So stay alert. I think this is not a big problem for me now. This step has been passed.

Beyond the limit-What is it out there?

I have a question, but I dont know how to express it now. A fundamental one...

Detective eyes

Step 1: Get a complete picture of the object (person)
Step 2: Put the object in a picture as logical as possible. The picture has the previous road (the past) & the ongoing road (the possible future).
Step 3: Go deep into psychology of the object. This can be achieved only after the first 2 steps have been performed (the inputs).

Experience + Limits

Experience is the content of your life in the past up to now. It is your starting point at the present. Your experience is poor.
Back to the fundamental, underlying characteristics that make me Dang Thanh Long, the building stones of my character. What are they? Am I a strong personality? Do I have determination? Am I hardworking? Am I optimistic? Who am I? As you embark on further changes, you will always have to remember what make you you, not anyone else. Your self-consciousness, Your self-confidence. Your self-esteem. You will not do things against your character, whatever it may be for.
Pushing myself to limits, observing myself in the most difficult times, not only my potential will be liberated, but equally important I will come to realize my true values, who am I.

Optimistic

Be optimistic is a good thing. I always feel good when I am optimistic, simply for that. When I am optimistic, nothing seems too tough even though I am thinking about the most challenging. When I am optimistic I always want to test myself to see how far my limit is.
Be optimistics is a good thing. I always know what I have to do when I am optimistic.

Game of life

The sole area that challenges me now is: understand people.
If I can do this, the payoffs of the game will be shown clearly before my eyes, and which strategies are the best, not a problem anymore.
Psychology will be core. Other facets (ability...) not so difficult. Emotion/feeling is toughest. But I like the toughest.
If I am not wrong, I am using the logic to study the seemingly absolutely illogically. But indeed the two extremes are closest to each other. Few notice that :) So whatever my emotions may be, the mind must be cool-if it is to use logic at all.

Law of attraction

Sounds fancy, but seems to have some seed of truth :)
(When your thoughts are powerful enough), they attract matter in the universe to come together to realize their (your thoughts') content.
Question: if you have a wish, what do you wish?
This is crucial : you must have feeling for it. Not just thoughts. You must feel it. Or what we call Passion. Just how INTENSE is your PASSION?!
Ok, I will do an experiment to test this theory :)
The process: imagine/visualize yourself in the state that you really want to be in-you feel the emotion-and go out, release the power of emotions/thoughts. The universe will respond.
I don't say explicitly what it is now. What I desperately want now. What is it, it is always at the bottom of your heart and you have intense feelings whenever you think of it.

Little etiquette

1. Regardless of who she/he is, don't just pass by. Say a few lines of conservation, a few is enough.

Humor + Wit and Intelligence

Kongfuzi says a learned man is learned because he understands others.
I say an intelligent man is intelligent because he can use humor.
So I want to experiment with 3 things:
-Understand people
-Use humor
-Write: practice humor and understanding.
I want to be obessessed with these 3 things.

Observative & reasoning

One more occasion in which I failed. 2 things:
-I failed to see things/events in a logical sequences, cause-effect. While A is very likely the cause of B and B very likely lead to C, at the spot I only notice B (which is very obvious) but was not alert enough to get at A & C immediately. Again I end up in saying the obvious/nonsense.
-I failed to get beyond what is said. I did not make sense out of it. So I may know but I dont understand them. This clearly is a failure. But if it is so obvious, why do I commit this failure so many times?
Is it because I havent installed in my mind the curiosity to understand them?

Build the path to self-aware mind

1. Self-aware is 1st stage. It is like to establish a reaction path to the advanced mind. Next stage is to use that path to use the advanced my. So there are 2 things here.
2. I am at stage 1. I am thinking how to build the path. The philosophy is like in building any reaction path: repetition. Question is :what is the stimulus?
3. In any situation, there are more than 1 way to react/solve. There are many aspects to differentiate them. For the moment we put them in a linear scale: the interpersonal warm/the warm of your [personality] reaction.
From 1 = extremely cold/indifferent
to 5 = extremely warm/friendly/extrovert. Now there is
4 = interested/observative mind is good enough. At the moment my mind is at
2 = uninterested in new people/friendly but reserved .
The logic behind is this: when I want to shift from scale 2 to 4, I have to stay self-aware. Now if I change to 4 in every encounter (which from an outside observer is some change in character), I will have to stay self-aware repeatedly. This way the path to self-aware/advanced mind will be established.
Is that so?

Density of Life

I suddenly see that 10 important years (20-30) somehow, some people use it ineffectively, read a lot, study a lot, but result disappointingly poor: life is too poor of ideas, at 35 dont have anything to tell, some precisely opposite. What is the reasons? Some use only 2 hours, seem not to read/study much but what has been read/studied seems extremely the right thing. Others wasted 5 hours but after some time no better than 0 hours. Why?
Really I still feel sudden, dont know how to express in English. Temporarily record some words, think again later.

Networking is not emotional life

Please take note to heart so as not to confuse between:
1. Networking vs. Emotional life.
They may be overlapping: my social life. They may be under the same name: friends. But they are not the same. What is at the core of networking. I dont know yet. But I do realize that networking is not about that we are seeking to benefit from others. It is building trusted relationships. It is not that you will help me, but that we understand each other. In that sense networking is an art and there is nothing dirty about it. Because it is totally common sense that we would like to work with those we can trust. I think so, too.

See the absence

This is a mistake we make when we project into the future. We fail to see the missing piece of the picture and more importantly we are not aware of that.
So what they said/did is important, but what they didnt say/do might be even more revealing.

Laws of life

1. Cause and effect.

Eg: Their feeling towards me must result from my interactions with them. I have no interaction with them ---> their feeling towards me is Zero!

2. Subjectivity & Comparision?

Embracing these laws, I can see the world from their points of view. I no longer can trust my intermediate mind. It is reaching its limits. Its thoughts and feelings are highly subjective and off-the-world. While my advanced mind is not working yet.

Ingredients for thought

1.I was thinking how to (re)vitalize my mind. I discovered during my talks & chats with friends and actually through scattered daily moments that for most of the time now my mind is not working, it is not thinking something productively, rather it seems to float along with no specific direction or destination. I seem to be in a perpetual maze. Now what is the solution?
There are 3 scenarios in which the problem pops up, or rather is most visible:
-I enter a social situation, ie. to meet someone. At best I stay silent. What makes it difficult is that I just know them but not familiar with them, I dont see them quite often, dont know their experience, story, so I dont know how to start, from which aspect.At this moment my mind was paralyzed and seemed to fall into a maze. At least I should think. How to solve this situation.?
-When I was reading, I was doing it as a programmed reaction, my mind seemed to float along the lines of letter. I may understand the meaning of the sentences but I dont have control over whats going on. So in any moment when I realized just that I could immediately speed up and feel that I was getting a better grasp of the material. The problem is just how to stop the maze ?
-When I have nothing to do, like on a bus :)

2.Regarding the first aspect above, one thing I can do is to make a list of the situation that I have failed, and when I sit back, think how to solve them.
The first situation of that kind is just how to start warming up with someone you may recognize but know not very well.
-For the second point, perhaps I can try reading some difficult materials, esp philosophy. I must make a determined, conscious effort if I want to see any effect.
There's something else I want to write but I forgot already :(