Game of life

The sole area that challenges me now is: understand people.
If I can do this, the payoffs of the game will be shown clearly before my eyes, and which strategies are the best, not a problem anymore.
Psychology will be core. Other facets (ability...) not so difficult. Emotion/feeling is toughest. But I like the toughest.
If I am not wrong, I am using the logic to study the seemingly absolutely illogically. But indeed the two extremes are closest to each other. Few notice that :) So whatever my emotions may be, the mind must be cool-if it is to use logic at all.

Law of attraction

Sounds fancy, but seems to have some seed of truth :)
(When your thoughts are powerful enough), they attract matter in the universe to come together to realize their (your thoughts') content.
Question: if you have a wish, what do you wish?
This is crucial : you must have feeling for it. Not just thoughts. You must feel it. Or what we call Passion. Just how INTENSE is your PASSION?!
Ok, I will do an experiment to test this theory :)
The process: imagine/visualize yourself in the state that you really want to be in-you feel the emotion-and go out, release the power of emotions/thoughts. The universe will respond.
I don't say explicitly what it is now. What I desperately want now. What is it, it is always at the bottom of your heart and you have intense feelings whenever you think of it.

Little etiquette

1. Regardless of who she/he is, don't just pass by. Say a few lines of conservation, a few is enough.

Humor + Wit and Intelligence

Kongfuzi says a learned man is learned because he understands others.
I say an intelligent man is intelligent because he can use humor.
So I want to experiment with 3 things:
-Understand people
-Use humor
-Write: practice humor and understanding.
I want to be obessessed with these 3 things.

Observative & reasoning

One more occasion in which I failed. 2 things:
-I failed to see things/events in a logical sequences, cause-effect. While A is very likely the cause of B and B very likely lead to C, at the spot I only notice B (which is very obvious) but was not alert enough to get at A & C immediately. Again I end up in saying the obvious/nonsense.
-I failed to get beyond what is said. I did not make sense out of it. So I may know but I dont understand them. This clearly is a failure. But if it is so obvious, why do I commit this failure so many times?
Is it because I havent installed in my mind the curiosity to understand them?

Build the path to self-aware mind

1. Self-aware is 1st stage. It is like to establish a reaction path to the advanced mind. Next stage is to use that path to use the advanced my. So there are 2 things here.
2. I am at stage 1. I am thinking how to build the path. The philosophy is like in building any reaction path: repetition. Question is :what is the stimulus?
3. In any situation, there are more than 1 way to react/solve. There are many aspects to differentiate them. For the moment we put them in a linear scale: the interpersonal warm/the warm of your [personality] reaction.
From 1 = extremely cold/indifferent
to 5 = extremely warm/friendly/extrovert. Now there is
4 = interested/observative mind is good enough. At the moment my mind is at
2 = uninterested in new people/friendly but reserved .
The logic behind is this: when I want to shift from scale 2 to 4, I have to stay self-aware. Now if I change to 4 in every encounter (which from an outside observer is some change in character), I will have to stay self-aware repeatedly. This way the path to self-aware/advanced mind will be established.
Is that so?

Density of Life

I suddenly see that 10 important years (20-30) somehow, some people use it ineffectively, read a lot, study a lot, but result disappointingly poor: life is too poor of ideas, at 35 dont have anything to tell, some precisely opposite. What is the reasons? Some use only 2 hours, seem not to read/study much but what has been read/studied seems extremely the right thing. Others wasted 5 hours but after some time no better than 0 hours. Why?
Really I still feel sudden, dont know how to express in English. Temporarily record some words, think again later.

Networking is not emotional life

Please take note to heart so as not to confuse between:
1. Networking vs. Emotional life.
They may be overlapping: my social life. They may be under the same name: friends. But they are not the same. What is at the core of networking. I dont know yet. But I do realize that networking is not about that we are seeking to benefit from others. It is building trusted relationships. It is not that you will help me, but that we understand each other. In that sense networking is an art and there is nothing dirty about it. Because it is totally common sense that we would like to work with those we can trust. I think so, too.

See the absence

This is a mistake we make when we project into the future. We fail to see the missing piece of the picture and more importantly we are not aware of that.
So what they said/did is important, but what they didnt say/do might be even more revealing.

Laws of life

1. Cause and effect.

Eg: Their feeling towards me must result from my interactions with them. I have no interaction with them ---> their feeling towards me is Zero!

2. Subjectivity & Comparision?

Embracing these laws, I can see the world from their points of view. I no longer can trust my intermediate mind. It is reaching its limits. Its thoughts and feelings are highly subjective and off-the-world. While my advanced mind is not working yet.

Ingredients for thought

1.I was thinking how to (re)vitalize my mind. I discovered during my talks & chats with friends and actually through scattered daily moments that for most of the time now my mind is not working, it is not thinking something productively, rather it seems to float along with no specific direction or destination. I seem to be in a perpetual maze. Now what is the solution?
There are 3 scenarios in which the problem pops up, or rather is most visible:
-I enter a social situation, ie. to meet someone. At best I stay silent. What makes it difficult is that I just know them but not familiar with them, I dont see them quite often, dont know their experience, story, so I dont know how to start, from which aspect.At this moment my mind was paralyzed and seemed to fall into a maze. At least I should think. How to solve this situation.?
-When I was reading, I was doing it as a programmed reaction, my mind seemed to float along the lines of letter. I may understand the meaning of the sentences but I dont have control over whats going on. So in any moment when I realized just that I could immediately speed up and feel that I was getting a better grasp of the material. The problem is just how to stop the maze ?
-When I have nothing to do, like on a bus :)

2.Regarding the first aspect above, one thing I can do is to make a list of the situation that I have failed, and when I sit back, think how to solve them.
The first situation of that kind is just how to start warming up with someone you may recognize but know not very well.
-For the second point, perhaps I can try reading some difficult materials, esp philosophy. I must make a determined, conscious effort if I want to see any effect.
There's something else I want to write but I forgot already :(